Denial

01
Sep

Q1: Has your life been touched by a Traumatic Brain Injury?

Yes

Q2: How have you been touched by a Traumatic Brain Injury?

Caregiver

Q3: Summary – the cause – the injury – today’s quality of life?

My mother was in an abusive relationship. I moved out because of this man, I couldn’t stand him but I could understand love. And my mom was in love with him.

It was July 29th when we left to stay with a friend, and a week later my mother went out for karaoke. August 6th is the day that changed her life.

I remember hugging her a lot before she left, telling her to be safe, wishing I could ask her not to go. At the time, I had no idea that she was going to see him.

I stayed up that night, playing idly on internet, waiting foe her to get home.

The door opens, I turn to see my mother peeking through around the door. She’s crying., eyes blood shot, face swollen past any degree I’ve ever witnessed.
She steps into the room, over head lights revealing her face, half covered in purple bruises, there’s a huge knot on her head, one eye is swollen shut.

I panic. Immediately calling 911 and screaming. She tells me to hang up but I call anyway. They arrive in minutes. She tells me he tried murdering her, she fought for her life, but sustained life changing injuries.

They told us they were going to catch him, and they did. He got a very shirt sentence in jail, and when he was out he began to stalk and terrorize my mother.

Her brain injury has so many intricacies and other issues that I couldn’t list them all. I know it’s degenerative, and it has affected every single aspect of my mother’s life and more.

And quality of life? Its different depending on the day and her mood. She’s a pretty great actress, she suffers a lot more than she tells me about. We have good days, especially when we heat properly, get good rest, communicate and be positive. There are difficult days to- but they can be changes into a better day with the right approach.

I love my mother, and I’m so happy to get to have her after she was almost taken from me forever. I’m happy thas care taker, and not an orphan.

Q4: Please share your experience at the time you became aware of the injury?

I didn’t understand the gravity. We found out a few weeks later. We stayed together foe a few months and in Me and my mother had a difficult relationship, I couldn’t understand the anger, and many other things that were caused by the injury I didn’t understand. Succumbing to pressure, stress, and anxiety, I did the worst thing I could have.
I left.
And I didn’t know how it would affect my mom negatively, but it did
I didn’t read or research her brain injury because I was in denial. Very strong denial

Q5: Tell about the experience immediately after the injury. Surgery? Coma?No coma, and no Surgery. We didn’t have insurance, they told us that no measures could be taken to reverse the

damage.

Q6: Tell us about the hospital stay after the survivor was no longer in a coma

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Q7: Tell us about the time in rehabilitation?

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Q8: Tell us about coming home!

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Q9: “Please type some single words that describe how TBI has touched your life. For example: Frightened, confused, sad, etc. Enter as many or as few words as you like. Separate each word with a comma”

Afraid, confused, hurt, life-changing, growing, learning, trying,

Q10: What year did the injury happen?

2013


Q11: Tell us about life today?

My mom has indeed come q long way
She tries so hard, and gets mad at herself because she doesn’t feel like she is who she was. I love her and am so proud of her. She is my hero.

Q12: What do you want to tell others going through the same process? Treatments, understandings and actions that made a difference?

LEARN ABOUT IT!!! It may be hard to take it all in. But things will be easier and I’ve wasted too much time in denial, not dealing with the issues and it’s done squat.

Q14: This information will be used to provide hope for others touched by TBI. Please indicate your permission to post your story on our blog and web site? Your name or email address will not be used with the posting.

Yes, you have permission to post my input

 

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